If you judge, reassess. It’s true that we need to listen to our own voices. If we are quick to pass judgement on someone else, it’s probably telling us something very important about ourselves. After all, it would be difficult to completely know the other person’s situation.
So, next time you’re in your car or other mode of transportation, ask yourself why you may be upset at a complete stranger. Do you know what they are going through? Did you have a conversation with that person? Is it possible they have nothing to do with your anger? Is it possible your own anger is reflecting something about yourself that you must tend to.
I’ve done it before. I’m not exempt from road rage or acts of anger towards others I don’t know. However, I know the difference between healthy attitudes and unworthy ones directed at someone for no reason. My method of dealing with these types of issues is to stay focused first, don’t react, and only respond if it becomes a problem. Bullies usually move on when they don’t elicit a reaction. When they don’t, they know they’ve gotten to you somehow. Only then, you must focus even more. Your reaction is what predicts their behavior.
It seems I learn a lot from working with adolescents. Now, the knowledge can be replicated and shared with adults. If you judge, reassess.
8 months ago